Therapeutic Issues in Couples Therapy with Emotional/Verbal (Psychological) AbuseMoshe Rozdzial, PhD, LPC*
Intimate partner (domestic) abuse is a pattern of intentional physical, emotional, verbal (psychological), and sexual mistreatment to gain and maintain differential power and control within an intimate relationship. Verbal and emotional abuse in relationship are part of a range of coercive behaviors and tactics that include domestic violence, but, without direct physical harm, are often dismissed, as there are no legal ramifications, yet, have deep psychological harms to the victim, including depression, isolation, fear, and guilt, and vulnerability to various health issues.
Working with Gay and Lesbian Couples with Emotional/Verbal (Psychological) AbuseMoshe Rozdzial, PhD, LPC*
Intimate partner abuse exempts no race, ethnicity, socio-economic status, sexual orientation or social status. On a daily basis, issues of dominance, power, and control in relationships are rooted in the oppressive systems to which we are all conditioned. Heterosexual hegemony normalizes the types of abusive behaviors that are both physically and mentally harmful, with the identified victim typically being the female and the perpetrator being male. Less universally recognized is the occurrence of domestic abuse among same-sex partners.
Regardless of habitation status, research indicates...
A Proceedure that engages the whole Mind-Body interrelationship.
A tool that allows for trauma work using the body’s natural internal support system known as resourcing.
A Process that supports deep healing and new understanding and growth.
What is Brainspotting?:
Resource BRAINSPOTTING utilizes the body's capacity to engage in self soothing and grounding from which to process traumatic or stressful events, memories, or fears.
BRAINSPOTTING therapy is a brain-based tool that was originally designed to alleviate the distress associated with human suffering. It is the latest tool in the arsenal of trauma work that is coincident with new physiological understanding of...
In our macho world, boys learn to control their feelings, to never cry, and that anger and violence is a problem-solving method. As a result, boys and men pay a huge toll for maintaining an image of manhood that keeps them isolated from women, children and other men.
-Stop the cycle of aggression and depression.
-Understand the root causes of your anger.
-Reclaim and promote emotional literacy.
-Choose and define for yourself what it means to be a man.
-Enhance the quality of communication and intimacy in your relationships.
STOP the anger:
The one emotion that is supported, as part of manhood, is...
The most common sexual disorder in women is low sexual desire or hypoactive desire. Aversion to sex is also an issue for some women (often as a result of early sexual trauma) as well as inhibited orgasm. There are two sexual pain disorders that occur in women: Dyspareunia, or painful intercourse, and Vaginismus, the involuntary spasmodic vaginal muscle contractions that occur during attempted intercourse.
Sexual disorders in Men:
The most common sexual disorder in men is premature ejaculation. Low libido also occurs in men, as does ejaculatory incompetence (lack of male orgasm), and erectile dysfunction (ED), the inability of...
Erectile Dysfunction (Male Impotence): Pharmacology vs. Mental Health
Moshe Rozdzial, PhD
Urologists estimate that about 30 million American men suffer from some form of erectile dysfunction, and many clinicians believe that number is rising. Viagra, the pharmacological treatment for impotence, went on the market in April of 1998. Pfizer, Inc., its manufacturer, rates its success as high as 80 percent. Men are expected to find the drug far more desirable than the penile implants, vacuum pumps, and injections and other standard medical treatments for impotence. While talk therapy was once regarded as the first line of treatment, impotence now appears to be...
Challenges of Coming-Out Gay or Lesbian Later in Life
Moshe Rozdzial, LPC
Are you attracted to the same gender as you, for as long as you can remember?
Are you passing or pretending to be heterosexual to avoid rejection?
Have you sought out sexual relationships with a same-sex partner?
Are you drawn to books and movies about same-sex relationships?
Do you fantasize about same-sex relationships?
Are you in a heterosexual marriage or relationship but know you’re living a lie?
If you answered yes to these questions, it is likely that you are Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual (LGBT). Unlike previous generations, homosexuality is much more acceptable in this day and...
All of us are on a journey of self awareness. However, this journey towards identity and individuality is marked by early negative events, stored as verbal (mind) or non-verbal (body) memories. These memories, coded as negative beliefs about the self, conditioned the mind into powerful protective strategies and focus. Protective attention is installed as negative perceptions, interpretations, and judgements, toward self and others. These can be projected into the present and future as worry and anxiety, perpetuating the strategies into negative life patterns. As negative thought and beliefs get reinforced through protective behaviors, they gain power and block us form...
Infidelity by powerful men is not far from the headlines. Yet, regardless of age or race, both men and women cheat. The statistics of infidelity in monogamous relationships range widely from reports that about 28-60 percent of married men and 14-40 percent of married women being unfaithful. The higher rates or recent infidelity statistics probably represent more current data as a result of internet and proximity applications that make infidelity more anonymous, accessible, and affordable. So why is it that infidelity is more skewed towards males?
Most common indicators of infidelity seem to focus on men’s emotional dissatisfaction. Dr. Gary...
UnderstandingSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
It’s that time of year. The days are getting shorter and many people experience symptoms of depression known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). The fact that the incidence of SAD increases at higher latitudes implicates the availability of light and light exposure as the major factors in inducing SAD. Humans respond to the decrease in ambient light by undergoing physiological changes akin to winterizing responses: weight gain, loading up on carbs, anxiety, listlessness, isolation, and lack of motivation. The body goes into emergency hibernation mode, taking the mind with it.
Other than psychotherapy and medication, the most...