Challenges of Coming-Out Gay or Lesbian Later in Life
Moshe Rozdzial, LPC
Are you attracted to the same gender as you, for as long as you can remember?
Are you passing or pretending to be heterosexual to avoid rejection?
Have you sought out sexual relationships with a same-sex partner?
Are you drawn to books and movies about same-sex relationships?
Do you fantasize about same-sex relationships?
Are you in a heterosexual marriage or relationship but know you’re living a lie?
If you answered yes to these questions, it is likely that you are Gay, Lesbian, or Bisexual (LGBT). Unlike previous generations, homosexuality is much more acceptable in this day and...
All of us are on a journey of self awareness. However, this journey towards identity and individuality is marked by early negative events, stored as verbal (mind) or non-verbal (body) memories. These memories, coded as negative beliefs about the self, conditioned the mind into powerful protective strategies and focus. Protective attention is installed as negative perceptions, interpretations, and judgements, toward self and others. These can be projected into the present and future as worry and anxiety, perpetuating the strategies into negative life patterns. As negative thought and beliefs get reinforced through protective behaviors, they gain power and block...
Infidelity by powerful men is not far from the headlines. Yet, regardless of age or race, both men and women cheat. The statistics of infidelity in monogamous relationships range widely from reports that about 28-60 percent of married men and 14-40 percent of married women being unfaithful. The higher rates or recent infidelity statistics probably represent more current data as a result of internet and proximity applications that make infidelity more anonymous, accessible, and affordable. So why is it that infidelity is more skewed towards males?
Most common indicators of infidelity seem to focus on men’s emotional dissatisfaction. Dr. Gary...
UnderstandingSeasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)
It’s that time of year. The days are getting shorter and many people experience symptoms of depression known as Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD). The fact that the incidence of SAD increases at higher latitudes implicates the availability of light and light exposure as the major factors in inducing SAD. Humans respond to the decrease in ambient light by undergoing physiological changes akin to winterizing responses: weight gain, loading up on carbs, anxiety, listlessness, isolation, and lack of motivation. The body goes into emergency hibernation mode, taking the mind with it.
Other than psychotherapy and medication, the most...
5 Keys to Beat Overwhelm, Stress, and Anxiety, Fears, and Trauma Flashbacks
Our mind and body are constantly on alert to self-protect, scanning the environment for potential hurts. This is the essence of worry: projecting, preparing, and rehearsing a future danger that’s rooted in past painful experience, witnessing, or perceived victimization. Overwhelm happens when we are confronted with one or more negative, real or imagined, experiences that supersede our ability to manage or control them. This is often labeled as a “crisis”. It could be ignited by something as powerful as a relationship breakup or death of a loved one, or, by...
7 Warning Signs Of A Troubled Relationship
Other than obvious major relationship problems, such as physical violence, emotional, psychological or sexual abuse or affairs, many relationship problems are much more subtle or indirect. Yet, they may suggest that there are underlying unresolved issues that continue to erode the fabric of your relationship.
By recognizing the signs of relationship trouble, you can then begin to directly address the problems with the necessary tools and solutions to improve your connections. If you’re noticing one or more of these warning signs in your relationship, consider couples counseling to address underlying issues, the sources of these...
One of the hardest things in any relationship is to truly listen to the other person. It means putting your own thoughts and feelings on the side long enough to truly hear the other person. Unfortunately most couples never learn how to do this. There is no Relationship 101 in school; If you are reading this article than your probably didn't have the greatest role models at home to teach you how to resolve an argument.
I guess a question to ask ourselves is: "Do I want to win this argument or Do I want to resolve this problem." You may...
Do you or a loved one spend money compulsively or shop impulsively?
Are you in constant anxiety of living on a financial edge?
Do you feel like you don’t understand money?
Are money conflicts destroying your relationship?
Millions of people have become trapped in a spiral of spending and debt. Overspending is a cultural addiction in a society that urges us to buy on credit, and keep buying. We are, after all, a consumer society, which rewards and glorifies the self-destructive behavior of overspending and compulsive shopping. This behavior leads to lives of unrealistic...
INTERVENTION SUPPORT for ALCOHOL AND SUBSTANCE ABUSE, GAMBLING, SHOPPING, SEX ADDICTION, PORNOGRAPHY. and INTERNET CYBERSEX ADDICTION, and OTHER BEHAVIORAL COMPULSIONS.
What is an Intervention?
An Intervention is the action taken by family, friends, employer and/or concerned others to actively assist someone to change unacceptable behaviors.
The ARISE method (Addiction Recovery in Supportive Environment):
ARISE is designed to work from the concerns of family and others to get a resistant addicted person started in treatment.
The ARISE process is designed to protect and enhance the long-term nature of family relationships, while at the same time ending the addiction's control over the family.
The ARISE method of Addiction...
Delayed Ejaculation Treatment in my Denver Sex Therapy Practice
Delayed ejaculation or “lasting too long”, is the difficulty or inability to achieve climax or ejaculation during sexual intercourse, despite normal sexual desire, arousal, and stimulation.
A number of factors, singly or in combination, may contribute to delayed ejaculation. These include physiological factors that affect the ability of the penis to experience sensation, including trauma, stroke, or damage to the penis or nerves leading to the penis, or as a result of chronic disease such as diabetes, high blood pressure, or alcohol or substance abuse. Certain medications can also impact the sensory capacity...